Conflict in Nepali culture
Dec 8, 2025 · by Kirtika van Hunen
Seeking common ground
If a conflict is causing loss of face, the person who lost face is likely to seek a solution actively, usually by finding common ground in the dispute, if that’s at all possible. Since Nepali communication is indirect, explicit mentioning of differences could be challenging.
Indications of conflict
When conflicts arise in Nepal, they can take various forms. Conflict exists as verbal and physical fights, refusing social contact, court cases, criticising and undermining a person’s reputation, complaining to the boss etc. Early signs of brewing conflict could be cold shoulders (socially unwelcoming behaviour), verbal exchange and even refusing social contact. If there is a complaint to the boss, the boss may take preventitive action to reconcile the parties before the whole situation spins out of control. In the community, the community head or other community members can be asked to assist in the reconcilation before the situation explodes.
Cutting off relations for generations
Cutting off relations between people, families or groups is a very severe form of conflict avoidance in Nepal, but it happens. Starting with more mild distancing, a conflict like that which is left unresolved can escalate to multiple generations of broken contact, where formerly friendly groups no longer communicate.
It’s OK to show anger sometimes
Shows of emotion like anger are acceptable sometimes. Anger can be expressed in aggressive behaviour, verbal, physical action and also psycho-socially by excluding or cutting all ties.
When conflicts escalate, a third party gets involved
When conflicts escalate, the police, the boss (in work situation), neighbours, friends, family or ultimately a court might get involved to aim to settle the dispute. A trusted person from the wider in-group could also get involved. Resolution can only take place if both parties are willing to resolve the situation.
Various ways to resolve a conflict
When someone suffers severe loss of face in Nepal, the situation may be resolved with a public apology ritual with witnesses. Losing your honour is very difficult – restoring honour and resolving deep disputes may be unachievable. Some other types of conflict such as office conflicts can be resolved with a mediator whom both parties respect, often the boss. Ultimately, Nepali people may bring a law suit and seek payment to solve the dispute.